Monthly Archives: June 2015

How Others Effect Us, Be In Charge Without Controlling, Flyebaby – Dudes To Dads Ep 17

How Other People Effect Us

Jason and Alan are once again joined by Vince, a friend of Jason’s and fellow member of the Dudes To Dads Meetup group.  Vince has 2 young boys and sits in on the show.  Jason begins the show telling the other guys about Mancrates.com which carries all kinds of gifts for men.  It’s the man alternative to a gift basket and they are awesome.  He also mentions the course Freedom To Be and the decision of how things and people effect us.  We get into the Battlefield and discuss how we have the power over how to let things effect us.  Jason offers an example that happened with his son and Vince provides a story he experienced at the zoo. You may have great intentions but you are stressed and probably not parenting in an ideal way or how you would want.  Alan then brings up the topic about things you can’t do when you have children. In Light Her Fire, Dr. Ellen Kreidman gives us a great subtle way to be inclusive in our requests. For SuperCharge, Jason introduces the Flyebaby, an infant airplane seat. We close out the episode with a quote from Bill Reidler called Oneness.  Be sure to subscribe via iTunes and sStitcher.

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Welcome & Intros (0:00)Mancrates.comFreedom To Be

The Battlefield (13:50) –  How the elements of life effect how we parent.

Light Her Fire (20:36) – A subtle way to be in charge without sounding like your controlling

SuperCharge (36:20) – An infant airplane seat called the Flyebaby

Quote of the Day (39:55) – Oneness by Bill Reidler

Dudes To Dads Featured on Local San Diego News KGTV Channel 10 (ABC)

Dudes To Dads was featured on the local news in San Diego on KGTV Channel 10 (ABC).  They did a brief interview with Jason and mention both the local meetup as well as the podcast.  It was a great opportunity to share what Dudes To Dads is doing and why it exists.

Kids are Capable, 50 Dangerous Things To Do, What Do Women Want – Dudes To Dads Ep 16

In episode 16 we are joined by Vince, a friend of Jason and dad in the meetup group.  Although the audio on Vince’s mic is hard to hear, Vince provides additional insight as the father of 2 young boys. We start with the mailbag with an email from Daniel who writes about how he feels his children should be doing more things on their own versus his wife who still helps the child with many tasks.  We discuss how kids are very capable and Jason refers to some information he received in the Susie Walton’s Joy of Parenting course for age appropriate tasks:

1-2 years old – carry dishes to kitchen, throw away diapers
2-3 – help sort laundry, help make beds
4-5 – prepare cold cereal, set and clear the table
6-8 – vacuum, make their own lunches for school
9-10 – clean bathrooms, wash dishes

We mention the Diaper Genie which Alan was not familiar with.  Then in Stuff to do, we dive into a discussion about the the book 50 Dangerous Things (You Should Let Your Children Do) By Gever Tulley.  We mention a few of the dangerous things as Vince shares his experience, but here are the 50 things:

  1. Lick a 9-volt Battery
  2. Play in a Hailstorm
  3. Master the Perfect Somersault
  4. Kiss Hello Like the French
  5. Stick Your Hand Out of the Window
  6. Drive a Nail
  7. Drive a Car
  8. Throw a Spear
  9. Make a Bomb in a Bag
  10. Play with the Vacuum Cleaner
  11. Throw Rocks
  12. Play with Dry Ice
  13. Boil Water in a Paper Cup
  14. Put Strange Stuff in the Microwave
  15. Throw Things From a Moving Car
  16. Drop From High Places
  17. Burn Things With a Magnifying Glass
  18. Walk Home From School
  19. Climb on the Roof
  20. Squash Pennies on a Railroad Track
  21. Spend an Hour Blindfolded
  22. Bend

5 Tips for Dads Going Through Divorce – Dudes to Dads Ep 15

In this episode we are joined by two divorced dads: Max and Craig.  Each have gone through similar difficulties with divorce and offer suggestions and tip for dads who face this challenge.  Divorce is not easy for anyone.  When there are kids involved and you are in an adversarial relationship, it can be even harder.  Join us on this episode and learn some tips how to better deal with divorce as a dad.  Here are the major themes of the tips:

  1. Get Your Logistics In Order
  2. Do not blame spouse regardless of circumstance
  3. The child is not the therapist
  4. Protect children from your dating
  5. Have the big picture in mind

Sibling Arguments, Children Teaching Class, Age For Makeup, Negative Talk – Dudes To Dads Ep 14

We bring back the Battlefield and discuss sibling arguments and how to handle them a little differently than usual.  It helps prevent one child from from being a victim over another. For Stuff To Do, we suggest asking your child to teach a class in which you are the student.  Let them choose which topic or help them choose if they are younger.  We then debated on the appropriate age for girls to begin wearing makeup.  We didn’t have an answer but discuss how important it is to help your daughters feel “pretty” on the inside.  We then move into Dad’s Homework in which we suggest writing your criticisms of your child rather than saying them. It allows you to still get it out without effecting the child.  In Light Her Fire, Dr. Ellen discusses the negative game in which you have to kiss your spouse every time you say something negative.  We then finish off the podcast with a famous quote by Henry Ford, “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, either way you are correct.”

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Welcome & Intros (0:00)

The Battlefield (3:56) – What to do when siblings argue?

Stuff to Do (9:22) – Attend a class taught by your child.

Debate (12:07) – What age is appropriate for girls to wear makeup?

Dad’s Homework (17:23) – Write down your criticisms of your child rather than saying it.

Light Her Fire (20:22) – Play the negative game

Quote of the Day (24:24) – Famous quote by Henry Ford.

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Complimenting Co-workers, Board Games, Why People Cheat & Double Standards – Dudes To Dads Ep 13

We kicked off Episode 13 going right into a debate about compliments.  Alan had brought up complimenting co-workers and where the line is drawn.  Can you complement a female co-worker on her appearance?  This is something we discuss.  Then on Stuff to Do we bring back old school board games: checkers, monopoly, etc.  Break out a board game and play.  For the mailbag, a listener Riley asks about what the podcast will do when Alan becomes a dad.  We then jump into Light Her Fire and Dr. Ellen talks about why affairs happen and what needs to be done to keep her.  Our quote of the day also has to do with cheating and that guys are dogs.  We close the show with Dad’s Homework, suggesting you go out and play a board game of which we discussed in the Stuff to Do segment.

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Welcome & Intros (0:00)

Dad’s Debate (1:11) – Compliments and what is appropriate for co-workers or friends

Stuff to Do (8:32) – Play a board game

Mailbag (11:26) – What happens when Alan becomes a Dad?

Light Her Fire (13:52) – Why do people cheat?

Quote of the Day (17:04) – About the double standard

Dad’s Homework (21:22) – Play board games with your child

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