Monthly Archives: March 2016

Interview with Productivity Coach Alan Brown – Part 2 – How Do You Manage ADHD? – Dudes to Dads Ep 56

We continue our conversation from Episode 55 (Part 1) with Alan Brown, creator of ADDCrusher and CrusherTV.  In this Part 2, we dive deeper into how ADHD affect dads and discuss a few tips on how men can deal with it.  There are medications, therapy, educational materials and more to help people manage various things related to ADHD.   Because there was not a lot of video/audio materials, Mr. Brown decided to create his ADDCrusher course.  This is a series of videos that include productivity hacks and shortcuts to help you manage some of the effects of ADHD.  With CrusherTV, Mr. Brown has created a weekly television show dedicated to helping people increase their productivity.  Whether you suffer from ADHD or not Mr. Brown’s programs and TV show can really benefit anyone who wants to increase their productivity.…

Interview with Productivity Coach Alan Brown – Part 1 – What is ADHD? – Dudes to Dads Ep 55

In epsiode 55, we welcome productivity coach Alan Brown.  Mr. Brown is the founder of ADDCrusher and CrusherTV. In the interview, we speak with him about his own history with ADHD and how he got started in this field.  We review some statistics, common myths of ADD, and aim to help adults understand that there is help.  He indicates that nearly 85% of the 7 million people with adult ADHD are undiagnosed.  This means a large amount of people are suffering and dealing with something that they don’t realize they can get help for.  Listen and learn as Mr. Brown helps us understand more about adult ADD and ADHD.…

How To Speed Up Your Kids – And What Not To Do – Dudes To Dads Ep 54

Our kids typically don’t move as fast as we would like them to.  In episode 54, we discuss how we can speed up our kids.  Their slowness definitely happens with preschool and kindergarten age children.  Often in the morning when going to school, we just can’t get them out the door fast enough.  However the reality is that it can happen at anytime.  They sometimes can do it for control and attention but mostly it seems they just get distracted easily.  You want to appreciate that they don’t stress, but it’s hard to.

So first we discuss what not to do:

  1. Don’t tell your child to hurry up – it will only be nagging and not be effective
  2. Don’t get angry or threatening to punish
  3. Don’t bribe

We then dive into the meat of the subject.  Here are some tips for speeding up your kids

1) Keep a positive tone
2) Maintain a consistent routine.  They know what is coming next.  Make a sign.
3) Provide warnings – 5 minutes left for breakfast
4) Turn tasks into games – make it a race, singing about what your doing
5) Allowing natural consequences – if not dressed, they go to school in what they have on.  I’ve hear a little more strict where the mom left without the child.
6) Don’t label them as a slowpoke or use other negative words. Labels shape behavior
7) Get them a watch or teach how to read the clocks
8) Practice patience, what is the worst thing that could happen?  So what if we are late.…

Kid’s Morning Schedule Template – Includes Sample Times and Pictures

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On many of our Dudes To Dads podcast episodes we have discussed tips and ways to improve the morning routine of getting the kids off to school.  If you have young children, you probably deal with this on a regular basis.  I have created a Kids-Morning-Schedule-Template that you can download and modify as needed.  I have done this with my kids and it does help.  I laminated a few copies and posted one in each of their rooms and then one downstairs in the kitchen which is the center of the morning routine.  Let me know how it goes with yours.…

Raising Children Without Gender Bias – Dudes To Dads Ep 53

The topic for episode 53 is gender bias and how we can raise our children to not have it.  We need to show our children that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities.  Little girls and little boys should see open and endless possibilities in front of them

Here are some steps from a Modernmom article we review: 

Step 1 – Have a strong bond with your child
Step 2 – Stop passing on gender bias to your kids
Step 3 – Provide your child non-traditional toys
Step 4 – Allow your children to participate in sports and activities that defy the gender bias.
Step 5 – Give your kids responsibilities at home to teach them non-traditional roles

We then go on to discuss various ways that we can begin to teach our kids not to have bias.  This information was from an article in the OC Register.

1. Teach your kid to ask “Are the men doing it, too?”
Questions like:
Are the men wearing skimpy costumes?
Are the men’s professional achievements prefaced by a note of their gender?
Are the men being asked who they’re wearing at entertainment award shows?
Are the men asked “How do you balance your work and personal life?

2. Point out gender bias when you see it
Pink toys versus blue toys.  Who cares.  The kids don’t unless we make them care

3. Expose them to the world
Let them see women police officers, male ballet dancers or gymnasts, woman firefighters, male cheerleaders, nanny = manny

4. Have discussions about sexism in books, movies and life in general
Bring up topics where you see they may have encountered these kind of issues and discuss them.  At school when they learn about something, there may be an opportunity to bring in …

Noise Hinders How Children Learn – Dudes To Dads Ep 52

For Episode 52, we discuss how noise can effect how children learn.  This article has some very interesting points of discussions. Noise is more distracting to a child’s brain than an adult. Research now shows that noise can hinder how children learn.  Children hear different things than adults do in a noisy environment. They are less equipped to deal with speech yet have a greater need to understand it.  Their ability to understand and process speech against competing background noise doesn’t mature until adolescence.  Brief sudden noises like a cough or horn can drown out part of a sentence. For an adult, we automatically substitute a choice so we usually don’t notice.  Children’s brains don’t fill in the gaps.  The guys also discuss how children shouldn’t even watch TV until after 2.

Here are some tips to reduce noise and help children learn:

  • Don’t leave TV, Radio, or other electronics on in the backgound. While it’s not clear whether soft music is distracting, lyrics are.
  • Speak clearly and make eye contact
  • When it is noisy, make sure toddlers see your face. They can pick up on mouth movements
  • If the child doesn’t understand, use simpler words. One or two words is often only what is needed.
  • If the child is having behavior problems in school, make sure being unable to hear in class isn’t the problem.

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