Monthly Archives: February 2017

9 Ways to Diffuse a Tantrum – or At Least Keep Your Sanity – Dudes To Dads Ep 104

While learning how to avoid tantrums is a skill in itself, there are going to be times when they are simply unavoidable. Here is my disclaimer: We are not doctors, nor do we have a license to provide advice. This is solely for entertainment purposes. Use any of these techniques at your own risk. We can’t be responsible for what happens during the tantrum or to your child later in life because of the way you handled the tantrums. This Episode 104 offers 9 ways to diffuse a tantrum:

1. Avoidance – Don’t say anything and simply walk away. While this can be difficult in public, if you are home it’s very easy. When they don’t have an audience, the tantrum isn’t as exciting to them. Just walk away into another room. If you are in public, you might be able to walk away but keep an eye on them. As much as you may want to, you don’t want to leave a young child unnattended.

2. Throw a tantrum with them – While you may then look just as stupid as they do, that is the point. Get down on the floor and stomp your hands, pound your fists, and show them how rediculous they look. The hope is they realize it’s not a good look.

3. Mirror Technique – I have used this with effectiveness. Place the child in front of a mirror or bring a mirror in front of them to they can see how they look. Like having a tantrum with them, it’s showing them it really isn’t effective and it certainly doesn’t look good.

4. The Zenmaster – This technique is about staying calm or zen like. Take a few deep breaths and quietly talk to your child. Maybe say to them, “Is there something …

How to Handle Your Kid Cursing – Your Guide To Minimizing Swearing – Ep 103

We have an epidemic on our hands. It’s a disease that has been in our society for a long time. It seems impossible to get rid of and looks like it might be here to stay. I’m talking about SWEARING or CURSING.

Today’s topic for Episode 103 is “How to Handle Your Kid Cursing – Your Guide To Minimizing Swearing
Was it always this bad? Did our parents talk like this? Where did we (and our kids) learn to talk like this?

1) From Us – The way we talk. How many of us have had a word come out of our mouth only to realize the child heard it. Even worse, the child reacting to it. Whether you have said something while you are angry, got hurt, or just to describe something, you realize you made a mistake and can’t take it back.

2) Family Members – While you may have a clean mouth, your wife or another family member may talk like a drunken sailor. “At holiday time, you put a few drinks in Aunt Edna and she is bound to start throwing F bombs.

3) Friends – Whether out in the street or at the playground at school, kids are certainly going to hear (and say) words that they wouldn’t dare repeat at home.

4) Media – TV, movies, and especially the internet all have a huge assortment of colorful language. It’s hard to police everything.

As soon as kids are able to talk, they are able to learn new and exciting words. How do we make sure they learn the right words rather than the wrong ones. Some might argue that the soap or hotsauce in the mouth are good methods. I don’t agree with those. The key is catching it early. Here are …

Everyone is Responsible For My Happiness & Everyone Else Causes My Pain – Dudes To Dads Ep 102

“All negative emotions, especially anger, depend on your ability to blame someone or something else for something in your life you are unhappy about”
– Brian Tracy (famous motivational speaker)

We allow others to effect our emotions. Think of some of the phrases we have heard since we were little and we still pass along to our own kids:

– Don’t say that. It hurts his feelings
– The way you are acting is making me really upset.
– That hurt my feelings
– I can’t believe what she just did. That makes me mad

Of course we mean well when we are trying to teach our kids sensitivity for others. But could we be more impactful from teaching them resiliency?

These are all indicating that the actions of someone else dictated how another person felt. The reality is that we are responsible for our own feelings and how we perceive things. We have the decision to determine if something is bad, good, negatively effects us or makes us happy. We also can make the decision that it doesn’t really effect us at all.

What if we were able to teach our children that despite what others say or do, it doesn’t really effect them. I heard a saying, “I will not have anything break my serenity”. Or for example the saying:

“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me”

If they were able to truly stick to who they are. They could be happy regardless of what someone says. They would feel great despite the way someone may act towards them.

This is really powerful stuff that effects our children every day. Think about bullying, acceptance among peers, or even causes of suicide. People are so greatly effected by what others say and do. …

12 Reasons Why Grandfathers Are Better Than Fathers – Dudes To Dads Ep 101

For episode 101, Jason’s father Steve joins in on the podcast to discuss 12 reasons why grandfathers are better than fathers.  This list assumes the grandparents on not the primary caretaker of the child nor do they take care of them very regularly.  The list is really about the grandparents that get to see their grandkids ever so often.

1) They get to feed them sugar and treats and not feel guilty about it.  You also can include fast food on this one.  Grandparents don’t care if the kids eat some bad stuff.  It’s more about enjoying life at that point.

2) They can focus more on the fun.  They don’t have to deal with school, chores, or day to day activities.  when grandparents are around, it’s about fun.

3) They have plenty of time.  They aren’t usually in a hurry to get to the next thing nor are they typically really busy.

4) They are smart.  They seem to know so much about the world.  They know facts and statistics.  Even when they really don’t know what they are talking about, they give the impression they do.  Kids eat it up.

5) They know history.  For some, they really were alive during the events grandkids learn in school.  It can be facinating for a kid to hear a story about being in the war, or when the man went on the moon.  This is the real thing.

6) They tell stories.  Whether the stories are about war or how milk was 10 cents when they were a kid, they can tell stories like nobody else.  In fact they can also tell the same stories over and over.

7) They like giving presents.  While we do podcasts about being present instead of giving presents, grandpa can buy the child’s love …

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