The question of “Can Dad’s Have It All?” is a part of the foundation of why Dudes To Dads was founded. We want to be good fathers, husbands, sons, employees, and good at every other role we play. In this episode we share some tips as well as discuss how other people are doing it. Jason mentions the Time article of 7 CEOs and how they find balance.
According to a 2011 paper by the Families and Work Institute (FWI) titled The New Male Mystique: for dual income families, 60% of working fathers versus 47% of working mothers reported experiencing work-family conflict.
The Times article also discuss that father’s often regret missing crucial moments (birth, graduations, etc.) and weighted them equally to less important moments like games, events, etc. Their advice was to not miss the crucial ones.
A 2013 Pew Research Study on working families found 46% of fathers reported they don’t think they spend enough time with their children versus 23% of mothers. Some other stats were that 40% of working mothers and 34% of working fathers say they always feel rushed.
Even though fathers have tripled the amount of time they spend with their kids since 1965, we are still feeling like it isn’t enough. Working mothers spend about twice as much time with their children as working fathers do (13.5 hours per week for mothers in 2011, compared with 7.3 hours for fathers).
Here are 11 Tips For Dads to Balance Work and Life:
- Take inventory – establish what your goals and priorities are with both work and life
- get organized – track your time, know where your time is currently being spent
- schedule the time with family or kids
- be flexible
- drop time wasting activities (television, social media)
- have family dinners
- take each kid out individually
- focus your energy – at work, work hard, with family, stay focused on family
- tuck them in at night, read to them
- get babysitters – go out on date night
- realize you won’t always be perfect